15 Jul

Build Boundaries to Protect Your Recovery

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An important part of staying sober after recovery is learning to avoid temptation and triggers that will send you back into bad old habits. In order to create an environment that will nurture your recovery when you come home, you need to learn how to set boundaries in your life and your relationships.

Many of us hesitate to set boundaries, thinking that it makes us cowardly, selfish, or mean. However, boundaries are actually a mark of courage and compassion, according to researcher Brene Brown:

“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.”

01 Jul

Setting Boundaries for You and Your Loved Ones

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We often hesitate to set boundaries in our life, worrying that it’s a signal we don’t love and care about the people around us. However, the truth is just the opposite. It’s important to recognize that there’s a difference between being “nice” and being truly compassionate.

“Compassionate people ask for what they need. They say no when they need to, and when they say yes, they mean it. They're compassionate because their boundaries keep them out of resentment.”

-Brene Brown

01 Jun

Do You Have a Prodigal Son?

Woman hugging her daughterWe all are familiar with the story of the Prodigal Son found in Luke Chapter 15.  A man had two sons, one asks his father to divide up his portion of his inheritance.  The young man took a journey and as the bible says “wasted his substance with riotous living.”  After a while, due to a famine, and his lifestyle, the son lost all he had and started feeding pigs, sometimes eating what was thrown to them.  After a while, he realized that his Father’s servants were better off than he, so he went to find his father.   Once he arrived, his father ran towards him, and kissed him, and killed the fatted calf for a celebration.
01 May

Sobriety Is about Connection

Sobriety is about connection.

According to the book Chasing the Scream, by journalist Johann Hari, the “opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety, but connection.” There is a lot of truth to this, as sobriety is more of a lifestyle, rather than simply not taking drugs, and addiction is primarily destructive because of how it alienates people further into the fringes of society. However, from a nuanced perspective, what sobriety is about is actually connection. If sobriety is a lifestyle, then the ways that we interact with our fellow man are the tenets that hold such a lifestyle together, so that we can share in our human experience in positive and fulfilling ways. Here is some information about this ideology, as well as Johann Hari’s experience with it...