An addict’s life is anything but balanced. The disease of addiction can completely take over one’s life, driving them to seek more and more excitement and pleasure at the expense of their relationships, health, career, etc. Drugs and alcohol are often used to numb negative emotions in an attempt to only experience the positive ones but unfortunately, these substances numb all emotion.
Learning to live a balanced life is essential for addiction recovery. As part of our program at Renaissance Ranch, we help recovering addicts bring balance back into their lives. Properly taking care of yourself will help you balance the highs and lows of life without the use of drugs or alcohol. Below is a step by step guide to help you find balance in your life.
Take an Inventory
The first thing that you need to do in order to live a balanced life is to take a look at where you focus your time and attention. Make sure that you aren’t accidentally using another habit or activity as a replacement for your addiction.
Make a Plan
Once you understand where the imbalances are, make a plan to correct them. What things do you need to devote less time and attention to? What are the things that you need to make sure that you give priority to? Create a plan that will help you balance these things.
This is one of the hardest steps of living a balanced life, as the disease of addiction causes you to lie to yourself even more than you lie to others. In order to be honest with yourself, you first have to accept yourself for who you are. Start by taking a good, deep look in the mirror. Don’t allow yourself to pass any judgements, just observe. As soon as you’re ready, start observing your thoughts and emotions. Do this exercise every day. Over time, you will be able to separate the truth from the lies. As soon as you are ready, start telling the truth to others too. Whenever you find yourself telling a lie, correct it as soon as possible.
Learn to Say No
Once you are honest with yourself, you can properly judge your circumstances and understand when you should say “Yes,” and when you should say “No.” You need to first take care of yourself if you want to live a healthy, balanced life. Sometimes, people will ask you to do things that you don’t have the time or energy to do. It is ok to tell them no.
Learning to balance your life is a process. Be patient with yourself — before your life may have been one sided and it will take time to change. Take things one step at a time, and remind yourself that every day can be a new victory. If you find yourself struggling, you are not alone. Don’t be afraid to ask for help in your recovery.
Real Stories of Recovery
As soon as I walked through the doors of the Ranch I felt hope. My life had spiraled into depths of shame, misery, guilt, depression, sadness, and suffocating darkness prior to reaching those front doors. The 2 months that followed would forever change my life and provide a foundation within that is unshakable.
My sobriety date is July 15 2008. And for that I am very grateful. The ranch has given Me the tools to live a life I never thought was possible. I have never forgotten the feelings I felt when I was there in treatment and that's what gets me through the day, is the feelings and brotherhood that I was so blessed with while I was in the ranch.
I had a head full of gospel knowledge and a heart full of shame. I felt like a failure. I hated who I was. That all changed during my stay at Renaissance Ranch. I quickly realized that I wasn't alone and that there were others who felt the same feelings of self-hatred, failure, and shame. This realization, coupled with the nonjudgmental environment of the Ranch, I was able to be completely honest and open for the first time in my life. From the guidance and empathy of my counselors and brothers, I learned it was okay to feel and I started to believe that there was hope.
Renaissance Ranch gave me a gift that no amount of money can ever repay. Through their unique, caring approach I learned how much I was loved, and that I never had to feel alone every again.
I have been called to serve a full time mission for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, in the Fort Collins, CO mission. I am eternally grateful for the sacrifices and love of everyone at The Ranch. I attribute my recovery to God, hard work, and the things I learned while I was there. I am so excited to go serve my Heavenly Father, it has been a long hard road to get here but I know it is what he wants me to do. My heart is full of gratitude and love for those who have cared for me... Thank you for all you have done for me...
Renaissance Ranch will always be a special place to me and will always have a special place in my heart. I had already attended one rehab facility. The Ranch truly saved my life by teaching me and allowing me to understand and love who I am.