Signs of Depression in Men You Love
Seeing a man you love struggle with feelings of anger, irritability, and pulling away from those he loves is difficult. You may not understand what he is going through, why he feels that way, or how you can help him. With love, compassion, and guidance, his symptoms of depression can be treated, and you can learn how to be there for him.
Understanding Depression
Depression, also called clinical depression or major depressive disorder, is a mood disorder that consists of constant feelings of irritability and sadness. It changes how you think, how you function day to day, and how you feel.
The symptoms of depression are more than feeling sad, and you can’t just “snap out of it.” However, those feelings can be treated with evidence-based, effective treatment.
The Types of Depression
Several types of depression exist, and the two types diagnosed the most are persistent depressive disorder and major depressive disorder.
- Major depression’s symptoms include a loss of interest in activities, withdrawal from friends and family, as well as trouble concentrating. These symptoms, along with others, disrupt daily life and persist for more than two weeks.
- Persistent depressive disorder’s symptoms aren’t as severe but can last for at least two years.
Other types of depression include:
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): The symptoms of SAD usually begin in the fall and early winter and will disappear during spring and summer.
- Bipolar Disorder: This type of mood disorder includes highs (mania) and lows (depression).
What Are the Causes of Depression?
While the causes of depression aren’t really known, there may be various reasons why someone has depression. The factors thought to be involved are:
- Brain Chemistry: The brain’s chemicals (neurotransmitters) may be a part of why you or a loved one has depression. Researchers have found that alterations in neurotransmitter function and their interactions within the brain impact mood stability. These findings could potentially have a significant effect on what is understood about depression and its treatment.
- Biology: Research has shown that an individual with depression can have physical changes in their brain. Although the importance of these changes is unknown, the discovery could aid in identifying the causes of depression.
- Hormones: Changes in hormones can trigger or cause depression.
- Genetics: Often, an individual who is diagnosed with depression has a close family member with depression. Researchers are studying the possible connection between genetics and depression.
- Environment: The area you live in, financial welfare, or interpersonal relationships can increase the risk of being diagnosed with depression. Also, traumatic experiences can lead to depression.
The Signs and Symptoms of Depression
No one has the exact symptoms, number of symptoms, and type of depression as someone else. For example, how old you are, your sex, and your physical health all play a role in how your symptoms present or which symptoms you have.
Additionally, your health and any medication you take can be the root cause of symptoms that are similar to depression. That’s why it’s helpful to know the symptoms of depression. Common symptoms of depression include:
- Feeling empty or sad
- Changes in appetite
- Sleep issues
- Fatigue
- Feeling hopeless
- Changes in behaviors
- Body aches, headaches, gastrointestinal issues
- Thoughts of suicide or self-harm
- Use of alcohol or drugs
If you think you have one or more symptoms of depression, know that there is help. The mental health professionals and medical team at Renaissance Ranch provide safe, supportive treatment to guide you through your healing journey. We offer inpatient and outpatient treatment that focuses on your emotional, mental, and physical health needs. For example, we encourage you to participate in groups that teach healthy coping skills.
How Depression Affects Men
Unlike women, men tend to exhibit signs of anger, aggression, or hostility more frequently than sadness. Their coping behaviors can also differ from those of women. The most common signs of depression in men include:
- Headaches
- Fatigue
- Risky behaviors (risky sex, speeding)
- Controlling behaviors
- Substance abuse
- Abusive behaviors
- Sexual issues (erectile dysfunction)
Men are also more likely to die by suicidal acts than women because they’re more likely to use quicker, lethal ways (guns, hanging). If you have thoughts of suicide, call or text the National Suicide Hotline at 988.
When to Seek Treatment
If your symptoms persist and disrupt your daily life, you should seek help. Treatment, especially early treatment, can help you learn how to manage your symptoms and prevent worsening of depression symptoms. Furthermore, with treatment, you can learn healthy, positive coping and life skills that increase your well-being and guide you to long-term recovery.
The Role of Family in Recovery
Family plays a vital role in recovery. Family members provide a place of comfort and belonging that can help combat feelings of loneliness or the urge to withdraw when you don’t feel understood.
Treatment at Renaissance Ranch
Renaissance Ranch provides evidence-based and faith-based care that is proven to be effective in treating substance and alcohol use disorders. We use multiple types of treatment along with a 12-Step approach.
Depression affects men and women, but can be overlooked in men because of cultural and societal expectations. Men are often expected to suppress their feelings, leading them to “bottle” their emotions rather than finding healthy ways to express them. Instead of being able to talk about feelings, such as hopelessness or sadness, they may become extremely angry or mask their emotions by using alcohol. Renaissance Ranch offers men a place where they can share their feelings with others without being judged. Our therapists guide men to find ways to express their emotions, use coping skills to maintain their well-being, and stay connected with fellow alumni. To learn more, call (801) 308-8898.